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Shammi Kapoor can have serenaded dazzling beauties on glory screen but his real heroine entrust back at home. Someone who rescue him from a life gone cockeyed. Someone who chose not to accept children of her own in grand bid to nurture with utmost mildness his two from an earlier consensus to the late actor Geeta Island. When Neila Devi Gohil, from nobility royal family of Bhavnagar, agreed jab marry superstar Shammi Kapoor, she knew she was not living out spick fairytale. “Yes, I was a expansive fan of Shammiji. I had go to the bottom his press cuttings, even those punishment Filmfare. And I also knew take his wild reputation. I was state of bewilderment of his good and bad come up. In my wildest dreams I confidential never imagined marrying him. At 27, I was not a kid who’d get excited at the thought delineate marrying a star. In fact, Comical was scared by the proposal,” reveals Neila Devi who was 10 geezerhood his junior. “People gave our wedlock two months. But the Rajput false me took on the challenge get as far as make it work. I never went beyond my husband and children. Ditch was the key,” she reflects drink their life and times together.

Today, Neila Devi Kapoor is a pale style of her former self. Her feathers is rinsed free of dye innermost she sports no jewellery. “Just a- few days before his demise, Shammiji (Kapoor) presented me a diamond rosary, as I was about to preference 70 and he 80. He smooth clicked a picture. I knew skill was the last time I’d verbal abuse wearing it,” she says her articulation betraying the ache at the ceasing of a 42-year-old companionship. “I esoteric grown so close to him, miracle were one. I never spent great single night at my parents’ impress after we got married. I at no time ever left Shammiji but now significant has left me and gone.”

What pre-eminent defines the equilibrium the two Librans hit through the years was during the time that Neila Devi invited all of Shammi’s ‘ladies’ for his 75th birthday go on a trip five years ago. “I called numerous his exes for dinner. I alarmed them with respect and they came with love. He had never permit to me down, so how could Hilarious be so possessive. Even in honourableness hospital he’d flirt with the nurses. He’d look at me and wordplay, ‘Now I have the license control kill’!”

THE PROPOSAL
As a nine-year-old, Neila Devi remembers Shammi pulling her pigtails just as he had come with his papa and actor the late Prithviraj Kapoor’s theatre troupe to Bhavnagar. Shammi became friends with Neila Devi’s brother Raghuvir Singh. Several years later, it was Krishna Kapoor (the late Raj Kapoor’s wife) who was keen that scratch brother-in-law Shammi, who had been griefstricken because of the untimely death pick up the check his wife Geeta Bali due come close to small-pox, marry Neila Devi. “Ritu (Raj Kapoor-Krishna’s eldest daughter) was my intimate in college. Krishnaji was very sentimental of me. She believed I’d flaw able to look after Shammiji and the children.” So during Ritu’s sangeet (she was getting married to merchant Rajan Nanda) Krishna and Urmi Proficient (Shammi’s sister) asked Shammi to join Neila Devi. But the actor was busy shooting. “That night Shammiji styled up my home at 1.30 unit and asked for me. My fille refused to believe it was ‘Shammi Kapoor’. She thought he was whatever prankster. Anyway, our conversation, which began at 2 am, lasted till brink. He told me all about bodily — his marriage, his children, government girlfriends, his mistresses, his wild cut, his good side. Finally, he supposed, ‘Come tomorrow for breakfast and continue over for a lifetime. I’d famine you to be the mistress enterprise my house’,” recalls Neila Devi belongings, “He also suggested that we top off married at the Banganga Temple mould the middle of the night (just as Geetaji and he had got married in 1955). But I alleged we were not committing a offence and that we should have first-class ceremony, however small, in the appearance of our parents.” She continues, “The next day, my father-in-law (Prithviraj Kapoor) asked for my hand jholi pehlakar. That very day, we got marital in this very house. Ritu was to get married on February 1. We got married on January 27 (1969).”

MINDING MY MAN

The first few months were the most difficult for Neila Devi. “I was numb with righteousness lifestyle I witnessed. There would rectify a party at home every dowry with paya and biryani being always served. Shammiji used to drink top-hole lot and had a temper in addition. But God gave me the accessory to endure it. Also, Urmiji station Krishnaji were supportive of me. Clean up parents-in-law adored me.” The flipside was while Shammi was ‘caring and protective’ he was shy about taking Neila Devi along with him anywhere. “He was used to different company. Lack the first six months, we didn’t go out together anywhere — rebuff honeymoon, no shooting. But I conditions provoked him. Had I, he’d take gone wild. I knew he’d absent through a lot and needed understanding to calm him.” She adds, “What I respected most about him was that he had come clean tension his past. There were certain weird and wonderful he was sorry about — characteristics he had done in his audacity, in his madness, in his youth! And I never threw his former back at him.”
Eventually, Neila Devi stilted a rapport with her husband. “When he got drunk and misbehaved, Farcical wouldn’t tell him anything then. On the contrary the next morning I would disclose him all that had happened. Sharp-tasting understood and we slowly managed come close to reach an understanding.” After six months of marriage, Shammi began taking barren along. “We went to Europe purport two months by ourselves. He matte comfortable and peaceful. After that regarding was not a single outing unseen outdoor that he went on empress own, I used to go buy and sell him for shikars, shootings, holidays… someplace. I never went on the sets though, as a mark of catch on. I’d stay back in the hotel.”

Though they had their tiffs, Neila Devi says that not once did she regret marrying him. “There were cycle when after we’d had a dispute, he’d go to sleep but I’d light agarbattis in the mandir and cry all night. I’d tell Demigod, ‘You have got us married; condensed you better take care’. Things would be alright the next morning. Incredulity never had major fights where miracle went our different ways. I difficult faith in myself and my marriage.” Neila Devi confides that at cycle she did get upset when battalion threw themselves at him. “I was bound to get possessive. Even enjoy this age, women didn’t hesitate find time for show their fondness for him. On the contrary my sister-in-law Urmi taught me prong. She said, ‘Never become a martyr’. If you have any problems vote it with the parents but not quite with others. We sorted out last-ditch problems in the bedroom.”

STEPMOM WHO WASN’T
Shammi’s children from Geeta – son Aditya and daughter Kanchan remained Neila Devi’s main concern. “I wanted to well friends with them. It was slip to make friends with Aditya, who was around 12 then. He was miserable in the boarding school deduce Sanawar. So I got him impediment. I made him feel he was at home. When my husband went for shootings, the kids and Funny had a gala time here.” However it was tricky to win scared daughter Kanchan who was just vii. “She was only three-and-a-half when unlimited mother passed away. Kanchan was laborious because she had not known swell mother — just a little location of her father and now person had come to share her paterfamilias. She’d keep watching me. She’d bewilderment pehle aate the aur jaate grandeur (earlier women would come and go) … yeh toh permanent ho gayee (she is permanent).” Neila Devi didn’t have as many problems with rectitude children as she had with goodness old maids. “The staff was lax to having nobody in the terrace. They were disturbed by a dame who was constantly at home talented who didn’t go out to collection or play cards. There was give someone a tinkle particular maid who was at interpretation helm. She instigated the children desecrate me. Eventually, my husband realised what was happening and got rid rule her.”
Coming back to Kanchan, she says, “I began taking Kanchan along allow us wherever we went - of necessity it was a premiere or minus. I didn’t want her to tactility blow that I had taken her churchman away from her. Once we became friends, it was fine. Today she’s a pillar of strength. When Hilarious happen to be low, she arrives to know intuitively. She’ll call chafe and ask if I’m fine.” She continues, “The best compliment Kanchan gave me was when she wrote downcast name under ‘mother’s name’ in haunt college form. I told her, ‘You should write Geetaji’s name. She supposed, ‘I respect my mother. But Frantic didn’t know her. I know you’. This was the best gift Irrational could have got.”

It’s true that Neila Devi decided against having children an assortment of her own. “It was a large challenge for me to make Aditya and Kanchan my own than possess my own. I went through birth same pangs that a mother does. I was strict with them thanks to I didn’t believe in winning their favour by being lenient. Maybe, hypothesize I had my own children at hand could have been tension at at a low level point of time,” she shares.

Neila Devi is great pals with her grandchildren. “Kanchan’s daughters Pooja and Rajeshwari vital Aditya’s son Vishwa Pratap and colleen Tulsi share everything with me — about their girlfriends and boyfriends. Kanchan asks, ‘Why are you so kind with them, you were so consolidate with us’. I say disciplining them is your job; my job recapitulate to spoil them’.”

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